And the simple way is this... that you choose to love and invest in your partner everyday. Regardless of how you are, who you are, how he or she is and who they have become, we just continue to invest in our partners everyday so they can shine.
The analogy used for this simple solution to grow old with your partner is from the famous classic, The Little Prince.
The Little Prince had found a single rose in his planet and he took very good care of his rose. He watered it and he invested in it constantly with tender loving care day after day. Not only was the haughty rose not appreciative, she was often vain and demanding.
One day, the little prince travelled to a different planet and to his surprise, he discovered that the planet was filled with roses of different colours. They were plentiful in the planet and they all smiled at him sweetly.
One would have thought the little prince might think "Oh, my rose is not so special after all..." and since the rose was haughty, he might have wanted to find a different rose.
But quite the opposite was true. The little prince realized that despite all her flaws, his rose is the most special rose of all because of all the time he had spent to take care of it and because his investment made her beauty possible. It was his special rose and belongs only to him.
If we invest in our partner every single day, they will be our special only to us and our investment will make them shine and become more attractive (especially to us).
When this happens, it becomes then easy for you to love your partner even if wrinkles and spots have appeared on their faces as they age or even when they are no longer hale and healthy as before. And in the case of dementia, even if they cannot remember you anymore. (In my experience of spending time with my grandma with dementia, they don't stop loving you even if they cannot remember you.)
No matter what happens, you just choose to love them.
Handmade birthday present I made for my boyfriend on his birthday featuring the little prince and his rose.
PS: Coincidentally, The Little Prince is my boyfriend's favorite book. He moved me and captured my heart when he told me to hand my heart over to him so he can take care of me like the Prince takes care of his rose.
No matter what happens, you just choose to love them.
Handmade birthday present I made for my boyfriend on his birthday featuring the little prince and his rose.
PS: Coincidentally, The Little Prince is my boyfriend's favorite book. He moved me and captured my heart when he told me to hand my heart over to him so he can take care of me like the Prince takes care of his rose.
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