I have just been having "mummy talks" with my friends and realized that many are struggling with dealing with their children's phone/game/computer addictions. And so I decided that I will write a little about addictions today.
What is most important in this world for you?
What if someone told you that your addiction is stealing THAT from you?
Would you still continue to indulge?
From a psychology point of view, addictions usually stem from the fact that we believe that we are bad. Because we believe we are bad, there is an unconscious fear about feeling good because we think we do not deserve it.
As a result, we indulge in an addiction that gives us a temporary feel of being good and well but in actual fact stops us from moving forward.
You may have noticed that sometimes, when your child has a lot to do and feel overwhelmed like they are not good enough to complete something or to succeed in something, they end up trying to distract themselves by playing games non stop.
They feel good for a while when they are playing the game and afterwards, they feel guilty that they have wasted their time and not move forward towards success.
It ends up becoming a vicious cycle.
Or in another case, many couples do not have a healthy sexual relationship. As a result, they may escape into the realm of sexual fantasies. Too much sexual fantasies, however, will prevent real joining because real sex becomes not so attractive after a while.
Mostly, people who who have a fear of feeling their feelings (eg, afraid of being alone) will start to develop some form of addiction.
All in all, there are many different types of addictions. Eg, romance addiction (Always looking for a new partner), addictions to the internet, new toys, gambling, sex, etc etc etc...
So it really seems like addictions are really a form of distraction and a actually a way of stopping us from moving forward and stopping us from being happy.
In short, they are actually just time wasters and stealing precious time, true happiness, real abundance and real success from you.
Will you still continue to invest in your addictions if you knew they were stealing from you?
Are you going through something similar?
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